Staying safe on Meet Naughty BBWs

What the platform does, and what it leaves to you

Meet Naughty BBWs reviews every photo, but it doesn't check what members say about themselves. Knowing exactly where the checks stop tells you where your own judgement takes over.

• Photos are reviewed. Every image is looked at before it appears, and nudity and lingerie shots aren't allowed.
• What people write isn't checked. Age, job, location and relationship status are the member's own words. Treat them as claims until you've met.
• The ID badge is optional. Some members choose a paid ID check (a photo ID and a selfie, run by LEM Verify) and get a badge. The platform can also ask for ID in some situations, such as a sign-up through a VPN or an account that's been flagged. Most members won't have the badge, and that alone isn't a warning sign.
• Profiles are shared with partner sites in the same network. Members of those sites can see your profile and message you, and your profile shows which site you joined through.
• Adults only. You must be 18 or over to join.

No dating site can promise that everyone on it is who they say they are. The rest of this page is about the habits that keep you in control.

Keeping your profile private

Your profile can be seen by more people than you might expect, so give away less than you would to a friend.

• Use a first name or a nickname, not your full name.
• Leave out your employer, your street, your children's school and anything else that's easy to search.
• Choose photos that aren't on your public social media if you'd rather not be found by a reverse image search.
• Think twice about photos with house numbers, car registrations or a recognisable workplace in the background.
• Swap numbers or social accounts only when you're ready. A free messaging app with a separate number, or simply waiting, is fine.

Romance scams: the patterns to know

A romance scam is a fake relationship built to get money out of you. Romance scammers are patient and often charming. Many lean on flattery, including lines designed to make them sound like the first person who has really "seen" you. The script changes, but the shape doesn't:

1. Fast intensity. Big feelings within days, constant messages, talk of a future together.
2. A reason they can't meet. Working on a rig, deployed overseas, stuck abroad, a camera that never works.
3. A move off the site. They want to switch to WhatsApp, Telegram or text straight away.
4. A problem only money can fix. A medical bill, a customs fee, a frozen account, a plane ticket. Or an "opportunity": crypto, trading, an investment they'll help you with.

If you see two or more of these together, stop. Don't send money, gift cards, crypto or bank details, and don't accept money to pass on for someone else. Report the profile through the members help centre (see contact) and report the scam to the authorities below. If you've already paid, call your bank straight away.

Intimate photos and sextortion

Don't send intimate images to someone you haven't met. If someone threatens to share photos unless you pay or send more, that's sextortion, and it's a crime.

• Don't pay and don't send anything else. Paying rarely ends it.
• Stop replying, but keep the messages and screenshots, including the profile name.
• In Australia, report it to the eSafety Commissioner, which can help get images removed, and to the police.
• In the UK, the Revenge Porn Helpline offers advice and can help with removal; report the threats to the police too.
• StopNCII.org, run by the Revenge Porn Helpline, lets adults create a digital fingerprint (a "hash") of an intimate image on their own device, so participating platforms can detect and block copies. The image itself never leaves your device.

Size-first and fetishising messages

Not every unpleasant message is dangerous, but some are a warning about how someone will behave in person. Openers about your body, questions about your weight, and pressure for particular photos are all signs someone sees you as a type. You don't owe them a reply. Our guide to fetishising messages explains the patterns and when to report.

Meeting in person

Meet somewhere public that you like, keep the first date short, tell a friend the plan, and get there and home your own way. Leave whenever you want, and remember that consent can be withdrawn at any point by either of you. The pre-date safety checklist breaks it down stage by stage, and the body-confidence guide has ideas for first-date places where you'll feel comfortable.

Reporting a member on the site

If a member breaks the rules, report them through the members help centre, explained on the contact page. A useful report includes:

1. The member's profile name, and a screenshot of their profile.
2. Screenshots of the messages, showing dates.
3. A line on what happened: a money request, threats, abuse, unwanted sexual messages, or someone who seems to be under 18.

Report a scam to the authorities too, using the table below. Then stop replying; you don't need to tell them you've reported them.

Where to report and get help

The right place to report depends on what happened and where you live. In an emergency, always call 000 in Australia or 999 in the UK first.

For anything about your account, start at the contact page. You can also read how Meet Naughty BBWs works for the basics of what's shared and what's paid, and is Meet Naughty BBWs legit? for who runs the site.